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Oct 4
15m 57s

153 - Walking on Eggshells: Paul’s Story

Alastair Duhs
About this episode

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What if one moment of clarity could save your relationship? In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Paul, a single father whose anger was slowly pushing away the people he loved most.

When his partner said life felt like “walking on eggshells,” Paul knew something had to change — and in just a few weeks, everything began to shift. This is a story of courage, self-awareness and the power of choosing a different path.

Key Takeaways:

-Constant stress and anger can make home life feel unsafe — even when there’s no physical violence

-Awareness is the first step to change; noticing the signs in your body helps you stop before you snap

-Small changes like pausing and using calm language (“That hurt”) can radically improve communication and connection

-Many people grew up in angry households and inherited poor emotional tools — but you can learn better ones

-Real progress doesn’t happen overnight. It’s gradual, honest, and deeply worth it.

-When someone says, “I have my best friend back,” that’s the real power of anger management

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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