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Apr 2025
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292: The Red Flags You SHOULD Be Paying ...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Are you walking away too fast—or staying when you shouldn’t?

In this episode, Matthew Hussey shares an honest look at how we misread red flags in dating in an interview with Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeau). You’ll learn how to spot real red flags vs. amber lights, when to pause instead of panic, and how the right relationship can help you heal.

🎯 Topics include:

  • The difference between a red flag and an “amber light” 🚦

  • How fear and past hurt can make us overreact or shut down 😬

  • The danger of going into dating like an "assessor" rather than a present and open human being.

  • Why empathy without boundaries can be dangerous—and how to balance compassion with standards.

  • How relationships can be healing if you show up the right way 💞

Whether you’ve been burned in the past or just want to date with more emotional intelligence, this one’s for you.

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