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Apr 14
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70. You'll KEEP falling behind until you...

Devamsha Gunput and Farah Raja
About this episode

This episode is a healing reminder for every high-achieving, hyper-independent woman who feels like she’s falling behind.


We unpack the shame that comes from comparison, the emotional weight of “not doing enough,” and the invisible hurdles that make your journey harder—but also more meaningful.


From dealing with family trauma to unlearning survival mode, we open up about how our early years shaped our timelines and why success doesn’t have to be fast to be worthy.


We talk about the quiet grief of late bloomers, the resentment you sometimes feel even after achieving your goals, and the internal battles you fight that no one sees.


If you’ve ever looked at someone younger and wondered, “Why not me?”—this episode will validate, reframe, and ground you.


Keywords: emotional healing, late bloomer, self-growth, feminine energy, comparison trap, eldest daughter struggles, financial healing, mindset shifts, self-worth, soft life, spiritual self-development, trauma-informed growth


00:00 The TikTok quote that sparked this conversation

2:20 Why we feel “behind” when we’re actually healing

4:00 The invisible weight of growing up in survival mode

6:02 Comparing yourself to people with a head start

8:12 The regret of learning key lessons later in life

10:01 What privilege actually looks like behind the scenes

12:40 Why success doesn’t feel the same for everyone

14:23 How to stop downplaying your own achievements

16:35 Turning comparison into inspiration (without guilt)

18:40 Practicing gratitude without bypassing your feelings


Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:


💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com


Hosts:

⁠@farahrajax⁠

⁠@devamsha⁠

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