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Dec 2023
30m 33s

#185: Feeling Behind in Life? Listen to ...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

The reason you feel behind in life is because you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to be ahead of you.

When you compare yourself to people who graduated, got jobs, got married, reproduced, bought cars and houses and vacations, not only are you doing a disservice to yourself, but you’re also contributing to the narrative that “success” is measured by external achievements rather than inner fulfillment.

Here’s how to stop comparing yourself to others and start accepting that you are exactly where you need to be.

Let this episode be a refreshing, encouraging reminder that feeling lost, directionless, or behind in life just means that you are taking the necessary time to pave your own way.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Get Your Self-Love TEA: https://maryscupoftea.com/tea
Ep. #163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yFlPHOd6psTmAu1iJh97L?si=eUtcRPv3S-CwNULANGmiEw
Ep. #180 on Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tXIGoj9RLZMjob3xbjqsN?si=LwWaB-3STWCe7tl18fPoUQ

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Cheers to self-love!

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