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Mar 2025
30m 25s

Being Addicted to Love - What centering ...

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About this episode

If you’ve been centering men to the point where you’ve lost yourself, this is a walk through of symptoms, signs, and what the other side looks like when you made it all the way out (no judgement zone).

I talk about the signs you might be a love addict, what it’s actually stealing from you, and why it’s so hard to stop chasing that high. 

We go into why “chill girl” energy is usually just low self-worth in disguise, how love addiction becomes your whole personality, and how most of us are just addicted to hope, not actual connection.

You’ll also hear the exact steps I recommend to move on and rebuild. Not just from a man, but from the whole fantasy. This isn’t about being bitter or anti-love. It’s about finally making peace with your own life and letting that be enough.

This is for the women trying to decenter men, figure out who they are outside of being desired, and stop wasting their glow on bare-minimum energy.

Let’s talk about it.


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