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Oct 2025
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Breakups are like quitting a substance: ...

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he worst part about ending a relationship is all the f*ck *ss advice handed around by people who say people should simply “just move on” and “just let it go” without acknowledging the actual turmoil that is the way your brain has changed while in the relationship. The tea is that breaking up and moving on from a relationship that “activated” you is quite literally the same as attempting to heal from the death of a loved one, and sometimes its even like trying to quit a substance. Most of the time, the act of missing the man is small in and of itself, we really just miss the high of being in a relationship. It’s why “time” is not enough, and “just moving on” is ineffective and will leave people wondering when they actually finally will move on. This is an updated breakup topic from a space of having moved on and what worked for me during my time of moving on from toxic men and all the advice that was mediocre to me in the long run.


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