logo
episode-header-image
Mar 2025
43m 8s

E 99 The Map Within the Mess: Why We Res...

Katie Farinas
About this episode

Special Giveaway! ✨I’m hosting a fun challenge to help spread the word about the podcast. There are two ways to win!

1️⃣ Rate & review the show.

2️⃣ Send me a screenshot of your review and be entered to win one of these 3 prizes:

☕ A Starbucks gift card

🧘‍♀️ A custom meditation designed just for you

✨ A free breakthrough coaching session with me


OR...⁠⁠⁠fill out this survey⁠⁠⁠ and be entered to win the same three prizes!

If you do both, you will be entered twice. Go ahead, be an overachiever!


In this powerful and deeply personal episode, host Katie Farinas tackles the misconception that spirituality and mindfulness can shield us from life's challenges and difficult emotions.

Katie emphasizes that the journey of life is a constant dance of moving away from and returning to our center. Even with mindfulness practices and robust support systems, life can still become overwhelming, leading to moments of breakdown.

Katie delves into the reasons why people often avoid "falling apart," exploring the fear of vulnerability, loss of control, fear of the unknown, societal expectations, and the desire to maintain functional in their lives. However, she argues that embracing these moments is crucial for strength, resilience, and growth.

This episode highlights the importance of:

  • Confronting vulnerability: Katie emphasizes that vulnerability is not weakness, but a pathway to authentic connection and strength.
  • Releasing negative emotions: Holding onto negative emotions can hinder our well-being and prevent us from experiencing joy and growth. Katie encourages healthy ways to release these emotions.
  • Embracing impermanence: Life is a cycle of breaking down and rebuilding, and this process is essential for our evolution.
  • Self-awareness and emotional expression: Understanding our emotional responses and expressing them honestly is vital for personal growth and authentic relationships.
  • The wisdom of Yoga philosophy: Katie connects the concept of "falling apart" to Yoga teachings, particularly non-attachment (Aparigraha), highlighting the importance of accepting the present moment, even when it's challenging.


Katie's vulnerability and honesty create a space for listeners to connect with their own experiences, offering a message of hope and empowerment. This episode is a reminder that "falling apart" is not a sign of failure, but a necessary part of the human experience, leading to greater strength, resilience, and a deeper connection to yourself.


Visit Katie's website for more information and resources. Subscribe to her newsletter for exclusive content and support on your midlife journey.

E66 on Aparigraha or non attachment


Up next
Aug 22
118: How Cancer and Divorce Led One Women To Her Life’s Purpose
What happens when the life you’ve built looks picture-perfect from the outside, but inside you’re struggling with depression, misalignment, and major life challenges like illness and heartbreak?In this episode of The Midlife Purpose Project, Erica Carrico shares her deeply person ... Show More
41m 51s
Aug 15
117: Saying Goodbye to What No Longer Serves You
📩 Join my newsletter for more tools and inspirationAfter 20 years as a bedside nurse, I made the difficult decision to walk away from a career that once felt like home. In this episode, I share my journey of letting go, overcoming fear, and finding peace even in the hardest seas ... Show More
26m 8s
Aug 8
116: Reclaiming Identity, Rest & Purpose with Rachel Brooks
Sign up for my newsletter here!Related Episodes:93: Who Are We Beyond The Roles We Play? 108: Redefining Success In MidlifeAre you feeling stuck in hustle mode, burned out, or questioning your purpose? In this powerful and soul-stirring episode, Katie sits down with award-winning ... Show More
1h 13m
Recommended Episodes
Dec 2024
Ep. 332 - Where Are You Lying to Yourself? And How to Reconnect With Your Truth with Martha Beck
We have manifested a truly authentic TBM guest today. Martha Beck is an author, speaker, coach, and sociologist whose focus has been on integrity, compassion, and living by your inner truth. This conversation delves into the profound intersections of authenticity, integrity, and ... Show More
1h 6m
May 12
Mel Robbins: How the Let Them Theory Can Heal Your Relationships
Jillian sits down with Mel Robbins to unpack the Let Them Theory — a mindset shift that helps you stop trying to control others and start focusing on your own emotional wellbeing. They explore how the urge to control often stems from stress and fear, and how letting go can actual ... Show More
1h 18m
Jun 5
THE LET THEM THEORY
In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of the “Let Them Theory,” a mindset shift that encourages us to let people be who they are instead of trying to control their actions. We explore how embracing this philosophy can bring more peace, freedom, and authentic ... Show More
8m 24s
Jul 29
The Let Them Theory - Book Summary | Mel Robbins | Free Audiobook
Ad-free audiobook summary & exclusive content / Show notes / PDF & Infographic / Free Audiobook / You’re wasting your energy trying to control what others think of you. Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory reveals why—and how you can finally break free. Stop the exhausting cycle of seeki ... Show More
26m 5s
Jan 2025
Mel Robbins: How to Use the ‘Let Them Theory’ (A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About)
Have you ever let someone just be themselves? How do you remind yourself what’s in your control? Today, Jay  sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary “Let Them Theory.” Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to ... Show More
1h 24m
Jul 23
1161: Bottom-Up Calm: Building Resilience Through The Body
In today's episode, Gina continues her discussion of using the body to combat anxiety and build resilience. Dr. Stephen Porges' work developing polyvagal theory is touched upon (along with Deb Dana's contributions) and easy to perform practices for developing tolerance to discomf ... Show More
18m 38s
Feb 2025
How To Feel More In Control Of Life: A Revolutionary Approach to Stress, Relationships & Inner Peace with Mel Robbins #525
Studies show we spend up to 70% of our mental energy focusing on things we can't control, which affects our relationships, stress levels and health. But what if there were two simple words that could help us all break free? Today's returning guest is Mel Robbins. Mel is a former ... Show More
2h 8m
Feb 2025
125: Anxious vs. Avoidant: Breaking the Unhealthy Push-Pull Dynamic in Love With Jimmy Knowles
If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much in a relationship while your partner seems emotionally unavailable, you’re not alone. The anxious-avoidant dynamic is one of the most common (and frustrating) relationship patterns—but is it doomed, or can it actually work? In this episode ... Show More
48m 22s
Jan 2025
How Can The Let Them Theory Help Me? ft. Mel Robbins
If someone isn’t for you, let them. Easier said than done, but in today’s episode, we’re joined by Mel Robbins (@melrobbins), motivational speaker and author of “The Let Them Theory”, to tell us how. After Mel comes in hot with a reality check that we may be the cause of our bigg ... Show More
55m 23s
Aug 7
Reset Your Mind & Soul: How to Find Peace When Life Feels Overwhelming
This episode will help you live a more peaceful and fulfilled life, even in a chaotic world. It's an invitation to pause, reset, slow down, and reconnect with yourself. And it’s a masterclass in how to release the tension you’re holding and unlock the calm, grounded confidence yo ... Show More
1h 16m