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Mar 2025
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Ep. 243: How to stay hopeful, soulful, a...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

A special in-person conversation with Victoria Hutchins, a beloved poet, yoga teacher, and now author. CW: eating disorders and brief allusion to suicidal feelings. 

Victoria and Mary talk about… 
- A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara - privilege, hustle culture, and mental health 
- mutual struggles with bulimia 
- thoughts on weight loss, Ozempic, and bariatric surgery 
- how nuance is disappearing from our culture 
- how to hold onto hope and harness joy 

Remember: make believe… make yourself believe in whatever makes you happy and hopefully, at the very least, believe in yourself. 

Victoria Hutchins, known as @thedailyvictorian on social media, is a beloved poet and yoga teacher with an online community of over 1.5 million followers. Prior to her current career, Victoria was an attorney at one of the largest law firms in the world and then at a publicly traded tech company. She holds a bachelor of arts from Columbia University and a juris doctorate from Vanderbilt University. Victoria is always seeking beauty, hope, and truth in the mess of life. Her debut poetry book, Make Believe, is an invitation for readers to join her in the search featuring nostalgic prose on returning to childlike joy, reconnecting with your body, and reclaiming a sense of optimism. 

Follow Victoria on Instagram: @thedailyvictorian 
Get Victoria’s new poetry book, Make Believe 
Listen to Victoria’s podcast, Soul Gum

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryscupofteaa and @thedailyvictorian 

Mentioned In This Episode... 
A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara

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