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Welcome to Episode 429 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Ariel Anderssen, who shares her incredible journey from growing up in a strict religious community to becoming a BDSM model and advocate. We explore the origins of kink, whether it’s something we’re born with or develop over time, along with the role of trust, communication, and appreciation in BDSM relationships.


Ariel opens up about her early fascination with power dynamics, how she discovered the BDSM community, and how modeling helped her embrace her sexuality. We also discuss the impact of growing up in a restrictive religious environment, the misconceptions surrounding BDSM, and why trust and mutual respect are at the core of these dynamics. 


Ariel Anderssen is a BDSM model and author with a lifetime's interest in submission and masochism. She released her first book, playing to lose, in 2023, where she charts her journey from a strict religious upbringing to becoming a shame-free, widely recognised BDSM performer. She's currently writing her second book.


In this episode, you will hear:


·      How Early Fantasies Can Shape Adult Sexuality

·      Nature vs. Nurture: Are We Born Kinky?

·      Ariel’s Transition from a Religious Upbringing to the BDSM Scene

·      The Role of Trust and Communication in BDSM Dynamics

·      How Nude Modeling Helped Ariel Heal Her Relationship with Her Body

·      Breaking Free from Shame and Embracing Kink

·      Misconceptions About BDSM in Popular Media

·      Tips for Dominants to Create a More Fulfilling Experience for Their Partners

·      The Importance of Aftercare and Emotional Connection in BDSM

·      Where to Find Resources for Exploring Kink Safely

 

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