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Feb 2025
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380. You Don't Need to Be The Best - How...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you’re falling behind. If so, you’re not alone—this is what happens when we’ve been trained to believe there’s only room for one of us at the top.

In this episode, I’m digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You’ll learn how to loosen perfectionism’s grip, stop seeing success as a zero-sum game, and shift into a mindset of true abundance—where you can actually celebrate others and yourself at the same time.


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