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Jan 2025
48m 58s

Surviving Shame

Jo Piazza
About this episode

Everyone feels shame, but it also feels like a misogynistic construct that is more often placed on women.

Nearly a decade ago, Melissa Petro was working as a public school teacher when the NY Post outed her as a former stripper and call girl. The media went wild and she was publicly humiliated and forced to resign from a career she loved. From then on, Melissa has dedicated her life to growing awareness of how sexist shame is weaponized against women to keep us from achieving our goals and knowing our worth. Today we're diving into:

  • Shame as a particularly gendered experience
  • How women face impossible societal standards
  • Parallels between shame in sex work and motherhood
  • The impact of social media on public shaming


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