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Apr 2022

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#284: 3 Steps to Conquer Parenting Shame

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist

About this episode

Shame comes from feeling "not enough" and is often perpetuated by beliefs in societal norms that are misguided and dangerous. All parents are susceptible to parenting shame but the pressure moms feel to be perfectly present and connected is especially strong. Shame often gets in the way of us being present in all of our relationships, with ourselves, our children, our partners and beyond. Learn about common shame triggers that affect parenting and how to conquer these to be able to be more present in your relationships with your kids. Website: yourvillageonline.com IG: @yourvillagonline FB: /yourvillageinc Book: Connected Parents Guide to Toddlerhood

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