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Jan 2025
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#252 You're Not the Exception to the Rul...

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today's solo episode I'm talking about the myth that I believe keeps so many people connected to their exes which is, being the "exception to the rule". We talk about in what ways people believe they're the exceptions to the rule, the issues that it causes, why we want to believe we're the exception, and what to do about it.

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