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Jul 2025
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Ep. 299 - Why can't I get over my ex?

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

You've been doing all the "right things" to get over your ex. Therapy, journaling, staying busy, even no contact, but you're still waking up at 2 AM thinking about them, still checking their social media, still feeling like your whole life is completely over. You're not broken, and you're not doing anything wrong. There's just one crucial piece missing that most breakup advice completely ignores. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what that piece is and the simple approach that finally made the difference for me and thousands of my clients. If you've been wondering why you're still struggling when you're trying so hard, this episode has the answers you've been looking for.

The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

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