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Jan 2025
43m 8s

Are We Just Not Sexually Compatible?

Esther Perel Global Media
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This week, a caller wonders if she’s sexually compatible with her partner or if they’ve just become too adherent to their sexual patterns. Esther helps her untangle the traumatic pieces from her past before her current relationship that are informing the anxiety she feels when her partner initiates sex. This episode contains references to a sexual assault. P ... Show More
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