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Dec 2024
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112: Why Emotional Unavailability Feels ...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
Sabrina, alongside her guest Vanessa Bennett, dives deep into the complexities of the “not enough” wound and its impact on attachment styles, hyper-independence, and relationships. Vanessa, a Holistic Psychotherapist, shares insights from her professional and personal journey, highlighting how societal conditioning often instills feelings of unworthiness. 

Sabrina and Vanessa explore how hyper-independence and codependency are two sides of the same coin, both rooted in attempts to soothe the worthiness wound in different ways. Sabrina draws from her own experiences, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and embracing discomfort as essential steps in healing. 

The conversation touches on the interplay between emotional unavailability and intimacy, as well as the role of micro-moments in building a solid sense of self. They also discuss the nuances of conflict resolution, effective communication, and creating safe relationships that foster growth. Sabrina and Vanessa encourage listeners to navigate their healing journeys with intention and compassion.

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