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Feb 2025
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#257 Understanding Rejection: Why It Hur...

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In this episode, I chat with Sabrina Zohar, host of the Sabrina Zohar podcast, about why we take breakups so personally and how to shift that mindset. Sabrina shares her journey from difficult relationships and anxiety to creating content that helps others navigate dating and relationships. We dive deep into why rejection hurts so badly from both a psychological and neurological perspective, discussing how our core beliefs and narratives shape our response to breakups. We explore the importance of no contact, why grieving is essential, and why seeing an ex move on with someone else isn't the personal rejection it often feels like. Sabrina offers valuable insights about how what's meant for us won't pass us by and why taking things less personally opens us up to better relationships.

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