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Aug 2023
19m 29s

#100: How to Stop Taking Things So Perso...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today’s episode, I’m answering a listener’s question on how to stop taking things so personally. This is something a lot of us struggle with, and can lead us to internalise others’ behaviour in ways that damage our self-esteem and exacerbate our suffering. 

We’ll cover:

  • Why you might take things personally 
  • The link between people pleasing and taking things personally
  • How to approach these situations differently 

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