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Dec 2021
21m 20s

17. How to Stop Taking Everything so Per...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

When every weird look, snide remark, or unfriendly punctuation in a text can cause us to go into a tailspin – it’s easy to see that we may take things a little too personally.

Because we are constantly taking in more information than others, we tend to notice every mood change or every slight difference in a person’s communication which causes us to feel as if things are our fault or directed at us.

But ready for some ground breaking news?!

9 times out of 10, another person’s behavior or mood is not your fault or even your responsibility. 

I know you don’t want to take things personally but it’s just the way our brains are wired. But it’s time to break free of this self-imposed prison and find joy and happiness in not taking things personally.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

• the number one secret to stop taking things personal.

• tools to use in daily life when you notice you’re taking things personally.

• about how I personally broke free of the cycle.



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