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Nov 2024
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Finding gratitude when you’re just not "...

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It’s that time of year when everyone reminds us to be grateful—but what if you’re not feeling it? Despite its proven benefits, gratitude can be surprisingly challenging to practice. In this episode, Monica dives into why it’s difficult for so many of us to engage with gratitude, exploring psychological factors like negativity bias, social comparisons, and stress. 

Savvy Psychologist is hosted by Dr. Monica Johnson. A transcript is available at Simplecast.

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