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Sep 2024
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How And Why To Avoid The Siren Call Of C...

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This Stanford psychologist has evidence that being a cynic is bad for your health, and offers a non-corny alternative. 

Dr. Jamil Zaki is a professor of psychology at Stanford University and the director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab. He's the author of The War for Kindness: Building Empathy in a Fractured World, and his new book is called Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness.

In this episode we talk about:

  • What cynicism is, and why it's so appealing
  • His own history as a "recovering cynic,"
  • How to know if you yourself are a cynic
  • A step-by-step guide to start developing the "hopeful skeptic" mindset
  • How to get better at disagreeing with other people, including some rules of engagement
  • And how to encourage kids not to become cynical


Related Episodes:

How (and Why) to Hack Your Empathy | Jamil Zaki

Reversing the Golden Rule | Jamil Zaki


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