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Nov 2024
21m 43s

368. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you about what happens when we do this.

Join me this week to understand why problem avoidance is so tempting but so counterproductive. You’ll learn how the consequences of problem avoidance can play out in your life, and most importantly, practical strategies for facing your problems with courage and resilience.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/368

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