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Dec 2024
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210. Still Cringing About That Thing You...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

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Are you tired of lying awake at night replaying social interactions? In this value-packed episode, we dive deep into the science and solutions behind post-social rumination. Learn why your brain gets stuck in the replay loop and discover proven strategies to break free.

Key Topics Covered:

  • The Science Behind Social Overthinking
  • Real costs: physical, emotional, and professional impacts
  • Why alcohol makes social anxiety worse
  • 7 practical strategies to stop the mental replay
  • How to reclaim the 182.5 hours per year spent ruminating

Featured Strategies:

✓ The 24-Hour Rule

✓ The Reality Check Protocol

✓ The Rumination Circuit Breaker

✓ The Future Self Framework

Memorable Quotes: "Every moment you spend overthinking past interactions is a moment you're not fully present in your current life."

"That moment you're obsessing over? Everyone else has already forgotten it."

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