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Have you ever found yourself wanting to lose weight or make a positive change, but your actions just don’t line up with your intentions? You know what you want—to feel better, to be healthier, to grow spiritually—but there’s this frustrating disconnect between your mind, your heart, and what you actually do. Whether it’s reaching for that snack you promised yourself you wouldn’t eat, skipping the project you know would bring relief, or struggling to find time for prayer even when you long for a deeper connection with God, the question lingers: Why do I do the things I don’t want to do instead of what I know I should?

This isn’t just about willpower—it’s about what’s happening in both our hearts and minds. Today, we’re exploring this age-old struggle through both a biblical and psychological lens to uncover the root of resistance and find practical ways to overcome it. If you’ve ever felt stuck in this tension, you’re not alone—and there’s hope to move forward.

Rooting for you,
Jessica

Next steps:

Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/

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Or book your free 20-minute consultation here!

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Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.
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