Episode 153: How to shout less at your children or help your clients shout less at theirs - psychologist tips

In this valuable episode of the Aspiring Psychologist Podcast, Dr. Marianne Trent welcomes Clinical Psychologist and Parenting Coach, Dr. Jade Redfern. They discuss the challenges parents face, especially the guilt associated with shouting at their kids. Dr. Redfern offers helpful insights on how to reduce shouting by focusing on emotional regulation for both parents and children. The episode includes practical strategies for managing stressful moments with kids, teaching parents how to co-regulate emotions and develop healthier communication within the family.

Guest:

• Dr. Jade Redfern – Clinical Psychologist and Parenting Coach, specialising in emotional regulation for children and parents.

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Key Takeaways:

• Shouting often comes from parents feeling overwhelmed; recognising triggers and taking steps to regulate emotions can help reduce shouting.
• Co-regulation is key: parents can model calmness and emotional regulation for their children, which can lead to better emotional responses from them.
• Singing or using your voice in other ways can be a surprising but effective tool for calming both yourself and your child in heated moments.
• Small, consistent steps in emotional regulation throughout the day can prevent end-of-day exhaustion and shouting.
• Good parenting isn't about being perfect; it's about being "good enough" and learning to repair relationships after difficult moments.

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Highlights:

(01:30) – Guest Introduction: Dr. Jade Redfern
(02:17) – What listeners can expect to learn: tips for reducing guilt and finding calm as a parent.
(03:47) – Addressing guilt and shame in parenting, especially for psychologists and social care workers.
(07:54) – How parenting triggers can activate unresolved emotions and challenge our ability to stay calm.
(16:44) – The importance of modelling self-care and emotional regulation for your children.
(19:34) – Simple but powerful techniques for parents to regulate their nervous system throughout the day.
(22:19) – The role of singing or using your voice to release built-up tension before shouting.
(30:34) – Reflecting on moments when parents feel overwhelmed, and how children mirror emotional regulation from their parents.
(41:09) – How parents can access more of Dr. Jade Redfern’s resources and join her parenting community.

Links:

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