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Aug 19
The Question Every Hurting Christian Eventually Asks
At some point, many Christians find themselves asking a question they never expected to ask: “God, I’ve tried to follow You. I’ve prayed. I’ve made changes. So why does this still hurt so much?” When suffering doesn’t match the life we thought obedience would produce, it can expo ... Show More
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The Bible Says “Cast Your Cares”… But You Keep Carrying Them
Can I be honest about something? I spent a long time thinking that giving something to God meant I wasn't supposed to feel anything about it anymore. Like caring and surrendering were opposites. They're not. In this episode, I'm digging into what 1 Peter 5:7 is actually inviting ... Show More
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Why Being So Hard on Yourself Fuels Anxiety (And What to Do About It) (Part 2)
Last week I talked about shame - that deep, quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with you - and how it gives birth to the survival patterns so many of us have been living inside of. This week, I'm taking it one step further. Because when shame goes unnamed and those ... Show More
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