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Oct 7
Why You Keep Expecting the Worst-Case Scenario (Even When You’re Trying to Trust God)
Do you ever tell yourself, “If I expect the worst, at least I won’t be disappointed”? When you’ve been through repeated disappointment or seasons where nothing seems to go right, preparing for the worst can start to feel like protection. But expecting pain doesn’t prevent it, and ... Show More
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Sep 30
Do Your Emotions Make You Feel Like a “Bad Christian”?
Have you ever had a bad day or a big emotional reaction and immediately wondered what it says about your faith? Maybe you’re angry and think you shouldn’t be, anxious and tell yourself you need to trust God more, or disappointed and feel guilty because you know you’re supposed to ... Show More
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You Know You’re Forgiven… So Why Do You Still Feel Guilty?
Be honest. Is there something you've done that you're still quietly requiring yourself to make up for, even after you've brought it to God? Even after you know, theologically, that you're forgiven? In this episode, I'm sitting with that tension and asking a question that might re ... Show More
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