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Nov 2024
22m 11s

How to Tackle Overtalking

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A chief officer had known for years he was an over talker. His CEO, desperate for improvement, gave him a coach. This episode highlights their first coaching conversation. 


Two mindsets from this episode:

  1. When you speak, have a destination in mind. 

Ask yourself: “What is my point exactly?” and “Why is this something they need to know?”

  1. Pay attention to your listeners. Respond to their interests.

Ask yourself: “Does what I’m talking about right now help us get to the destination?” If not, skip it.


It doesn’t matter why you overtalk. Overtalking is limiting. Build your awareness of when you do it.


Learn to ‘hear’ the communications you have.

Who talked how long? 

What were the smaller conversations within the larger communication?


More tools to build your self-awareness and communication skills can be found in the Essential Communications bin and in the archive of all 16 years of the show.


Build awareness browsing these categories:

Self-Management

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Develop your communication skills in this category:

Communication Skills


Five Episodes to help your skills are:

53 - Answer What’s Asked

65 - Sorting & Labeling

20 - Staying on Track

11 - Sounding Executive

16 - Sounding Well-Spoken


“Think Fast Talk Smart” podcast with Matt Abrahams. Great tools to help you be a better communicator.


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Be safe, everyone! 

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