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Jul 10
22m 13s

How to Own Healthy Assertion

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

Still traumatized over an angry explosion she’d aimed at an abusive leader years before, a leader asks her coach to help her access healthy assertion to use during moments of conflict.


Where are you on the assertion scale? Our assessments will tell you.


In the episode, ASSERTION got divided into two skills: 

AWARENESS and EXPRESSION.


The four-step script to build healthy ASSERTION is:

  • Situation
  • Feeling
  • Want
  • Outcome


Part of assertion is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Our tool defines EQ and gives exercises. Download it here.

“Unlocking Executive Presence Through Emotional Intelligence” Episode 232. The concept explained and tools provided.

Download “The Feeling Word Grid” here.


Ready for an amazing growth experience? Explore Brené Brown’s Dare to Lead course.


Often recommended. Always helpful. Crucial Conversations.


More tools in the ASSERTIVENESS category in the archive.


Episodes with assertiveness tools: 

220 - Holding Boundaries

219 - How to Set Boundaries

210 - How to Grow Your Self-Management

86 - Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries

198 - Psychological Safety


Considering coaching? Talk with Tom. Send him an email here.

 

Additional resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Until next time!


Thanks! from The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


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