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Aug 7
28m 24s

How to Manage Defensive People

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A leader with a direct report who is, she says, the most defensive person she’s ever known, devotes an entire coaching session to gathering tools to help her cope. 


All the tools and ideas and scripts in this episode are in an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here. 


To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.


Dig into more tools for managing defensive people in our podcast library in these three categories:

Communication Skills

Management Skills

Relationship Building


Additional episodes you could listen to are:

216 - 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks

60 - Be Impeccable with Your Word 

35 - Handling Defensive Behaviors

173 - Managing Bad Behavior

138 - Managing Disruptive Executives

198 - Psychological Safety


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