There’s a lot of dating advice out there saying the “right” love should feel calm, steady, and like home. No butterflies. No activation. No intensity. Just safety.
But love is not meant to keep you comfortable. Love is disruptive. It opens the rooms inside of you that haven’t been met yet. It asks you to expand, to feel more, to grow. Nervous system regulation isn’t the end goal. It’s the ground you stand on, so you have the capacity to actually live, feel, and love fully.
In this episode, we look at attraction as a guide rather than a problem. We debunk the idea that if you feel activated, you must be trauma-bonding or doing something wrong. There is wisdom in what draws you toward someone. The invitation is to learn how to work with it.
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