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Nov 2024
15m 6s

How to Respond to Gaslighting

Civility Media
About this episode

Ever been in an argument where someone twists your words, denies things that happened, or makes you doubt your own reality?

Gaslighting can be one of the most frustrating and confusing behaviors to deal with. It leaves you questioning your memory, feeling blamed, and wondering if you’re the problem.

But here’s the good news: you don’t have to play by their rules.

In this episode, I’m sharing 3 strategies to take back control when dealing with gaslighters.

These aren’t just words. They’re practical tools to keep you calm, grounded, and in control when someone tries to distort the truth.

If you’re ready to handle gaslighting with confidence, this episode will show you how.

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