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Nov 2024
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EP 487: Situationships and Your Attachme...

DR. MORGAN ANDERSON
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WHY is it that situationships are so hard to get over? 


Sometimes they feel even more challenging to get over than long-term serious relationships… 


Inside of this episode we explore what’s really going on when a situationship ends. 


Inside this episode: 


  • Understanding WHY situationships can have such a profound emotional impact.
  • Understanding Repetition compulsion: How grieving a situationship is often about past unresolved relational trauma
  • The decision to heal and the necessary steps to attracting emotionally available love 



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Episode Timestamps: 


00:00 Introduction to Attachment Styles

02:50 Understanding Situationships and Their Impact

05:45 The Emotional Toll of Undefined Relationships

09:03 Attachment Styles and Breakup Dynamics

11:47 Repetition Compulsion in Relationships

15:03 Grieving the Loss of a Situationship

15:20 Understanding Relationship Trauma

25:48  Healing Through Self-Compassion

30:28 Choosing Healing and Moving Forward


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