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Oct 2024
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204. Ditch the Dependence: Building Conf...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

In today's episode, we dive into the powerful topic of external validation and how reliance on others' approval can limit your growth and confidence.

For professionals, the need for validation from bosses, colleagues, or clients can create a cycle of dependence that keeps you playing small. We break down common scenarios where this need shows up in the workplace, plus actionable strategies to help you build self-confidence from within. You'll learn how to shift your focus from others' reactions to your own internal standards and gain practical tips for fostering true social confidence that's grounded in you.

Tune in for empowering insights and transformative strategies to break free from approval-seeking and start owning your professional and personal success!

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