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Jun 13
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145: How to let go of seeking external v...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
Struggling with people-pleasing or feeling anxious about how others perceive you? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina dives deep into how to let go of external validation and truly thrive while single. Whether you’re navigating dating, healing from past relationships, or simply want to build stronger self-worth, this video is packed with actionable tools, neuroscience insights, and real-life stories that will help you break free from approval-seeking and self-abandonment.

What you’ll learn:
- Why we crave external validation (hint: it’s not vanity, it’s survival)
- How your childhood and nervous system shape your relationship patterns
- Practical exercises like the Validation Tracker and Self-Validation First Tool
- How to stop disappearing in dating and start showing up authentically
- Steps to attract healthy, secure love from a place of wholeness, not wounds

Sabrina shares her own journey, from overperforming and people-pleasing to building a life—and relationships—rooted in self-love and authenticity. If you’re tired of chasing approval and want to feel empowered, seen, and chosen by yourself first, this episode is for you.

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