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Oct 2024
16m 8s

How to Handle Liars

Civility Media
About this episode

Ever had that nagging feeling that someone isn’t being honest with you?

It’s frustrating when you know something’s off, but you’re not sure how to address it. Especially without things getting messy.

Here’s the good news: You don’t have to call someone out directly to get closer to the truth. In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 subtle ways to handle conversations when someone isn’t telling the whole story.

These 3 strategies will help you keep your cool, let the other person’s honesty (or lack of it) reveal itself, and avoid getting tangled up in their story.

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