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Oct 2024
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E74 Burnout as a Nervous System Breakdow...

Katie Farinas
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Starting her healing journey at just 15, Stacey Uhrig intuitively knew she needed support—even at a time when therapy wasn’t widely available or socially accepted. She fought for her right to receive it and succeeded. But after 20 years of therapy, Stacey still struggled with panic attacks. That’s when she realized there had to be another way to heal.

This revelation led her to explore developmental trauma and how unresolved childhood experiences deeply shape our mental health. Around this time, Stacey also started building her family through adoption. Through this process, she encountered a hidden challenge: parents of adopted children often struggle with the secondary trauma their children bring with them—stemming from early-life experiences before joining their forever homes.

In this episode, Stacey offers a new understanding of burnout, revealing that it’s more than just emotional exhaustion—it’s a breakdown of the nervous system. Stacey experienced this firsthand in her 30s. After 20 years of living in a state of hypervigilance, her nervous system became overloaded, unable to process the constant stress.

She describes burnout as a visceral experience—not just mental rumination but a physical shutdown. Some symptoms she mentions include:

  • Fatigue
  • Brain fog
  • Chest tightness
  • Facial flushing
  • Overwhelm

Stacey explains that polyvagal theory sheds light on what happens to the nervous system during burnout and why our bodies respond this way. We also touch on a therapy model called Internal Family Systems (IFS) as to why we develop coping strategies that can lead to burnout.

Surprisingly, burnout is the body's attempt to protect us when stress becomes too much to handle. She emphasizes the importance of terminology—knowing what’s really happening helps us find effective ways to heal.

As a trauma therapist, Stacey uses techniques like hypnosis to help clients access subconscious beliefs that shape their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Many people don’t even realize they’ve experienced trauma—they just feel stuck and don’t understand why.

Stacey says that if you’ve ever felt:

  • “I’m not enough.”
  • “I don’t belong.”
  • “I can’t have what I want because I’m unworthy.”

These beliefs are often rooted in trauma. Even if the events don’t seem significant on the surface, the way we internalize them can leave lasting emotional imprints that drive behavior patterns.

In this conversation, we explore:

  • The science behind polyvagal theory and its connection to trauma and burnout.
  • How early trauma influences the nervous system.
  • Why burnout is actually a protective response from your body.
  • The impact of subconscious programming on mental health.

Through her work, Stacey guides her clients toward healing by addressing the underlying trauma that blocks them from feeling whole. She reminds us that healing is possible, but it requires a deeper understanding of how our body and mind work together.

Redefining Burnout as a Nervous System BreakdownHow Hypnosis Helps Uncover Subconscious TraumaEpisode Highlights


Discover more of Stacey’s wisdom and healing journey:
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Stacey's previous episode on Developmental Trauma.


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