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Oct 2024
21m 10s

Settling or Sinking? 4 Red Flags You’re ...

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In this episode of Coffee and Cleavage, Lynnie, Shantal and Gary dive into the often uncomfortable truth about settling in relationships. Are your needs chronically unmet? Do you feel like you're just along for the ride, unsure if you deserve more? The trio unpacks tell-tale signs that you might be settling, and discusses what steps to take next. Tune in to discover if you're ready to prioritize yourself and leave 'meh' behind!

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