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Jun 2024
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8 Signs You Are Subtle Settling In Your ...

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About this episode

Do you often feel unappreciated by your partner?

Do you avoid addressing issues to keep the peace?

Today, Jay tackles a common yet often overlooked issue in relationships: subtle settling. He begins by acknowledging the pervasive uncertainty many people face about their partners and the fear of being alone that often drives them to stay in unfulfilling relationships. Is it true that the lack of current excitement or passion necessarily indicates settling.

One of the key questions Jay poses is whether individuals feel they can be their true selves with their partners. He highlights the importance of authenticity in relationships, sharing anecdotes about how people often hide or underplay parts of themselves to be more likable, which ultimately leads to losing their true identity.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to foster emotional availability

How to deal with unrealistic expectations

How to ensure mutual respect in your relationship

How to discuss important issues in a healthy way

Healthy communication is another crucial aspect in all relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to ensure they are not compromising their happiness and well-being in their relationships.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:24 Subtle Settling

02:26 #1: Do You Feel Like You Can Truly Be Yourself?

07:18 #2: Do You Discuss Important Things In A Healthy Way?

13:19 #3: Do You Feel A Sense Of Respect?

15:36 #4: Are You Scared Of Being Lonely?

20:58 #5: Do You Compare Your Partner To Other People?

22:23 #6: Do They Understand Why You Are The Way You Are?

23:53 #7: Can They Tolerate Your Weaknesses And Can You Tolerate Theirs?

24:53 #8: You're Subtle Settling If It's A Financial Decision

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