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Sep 2024
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450: Cutting Ties With Your Parents - Wi...

LAURA REAGAN, LCSW-C
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Welcome back to Therapy Chat! As a follow up to last week's episode in which guest Dr. Sharon Martin described the communication dynamics and boundaries of families that could be described as unhealthy, toxic, dysfunctional, abusive, emotionally immature, Sharon is back with a new discussion.

We talked about the challenges of accepting one's family of origin as it really is - and what that means. Sharon explained that a tremendous amount of grief can arise when we see that our family is not open to changing, and how those who decide to cut ties with their families can come out on the other side and move forward with their lives. 

My guest for this replay episode from 2021 is Dr. Sharon Martin. Sharon has been working with adults whose parents were emotionally immature, emotionally neglectful, emotionally unavailable, substance abusing, or otherwise unable to meet their children's attachment needs for 20 years, and she has written several books about healing from difficult childhoods. Her latest book, "Cutting Ties With Your Parents: A workbook to help adults make peace with their decision, heal emotional wounds, and move forward with their lives," comes out in mid-October, 2024. 

Pre-order Sharon's new book now and find other great resources via her website: https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com 

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