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Oct 6
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500: Behind The Scenes Of My Shame Storm...

LAURA REAGAN, LCSW-C
About this episode

This week, in a special 500th episode of Therapy Chat, I shared a behind the scenes look at what happened when I got bad news right before a LIVE, in person interview with Janina Fisher on shame.

I talked about the profound challenges of asking for help, especially for those of us who have experienced emotional or physical neglect. In a twist from the usual Therapy Chat episode, I talked about my process, sharing what was happening with my Parts and how I understood what was happening through the lens of trauma and attachment.

And I shared the beautiful surprise that happened after I fell apart and how it helped me along my healing journey. I hope this episode will help you along your journey and offer you a compassionate perspective on how early childhood experiences can shape our unconscious beliefs about our safety in the world. 

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

  • Reflect on your own "blueprint" from early childhood experiences regarding asking for help and trusting others.
  • Recognize shame as a potential trauma reaction and practice self-compassion when it arises.
  • Challenge the illusion of control and release the burden of preventing every negative outcome.
  • Seek out and embrace "corrective emotional experiences" where you allow yourself to be vulnerable and receive support.
  • Prioritize genuine connection and community to combat isolation and foster reciprocal relationships.
  • Give yourself permission to "be human" and express your authentic self.
  • What if you try giving connection a chance? It might just change your life.


Additional Resources:

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