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Sep 2024
10m 37s

I can't reach orgasm; what do I do?

Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert | Rom-Com Critic
About this episode

DB responds to a listener struggling with orgasm, despite trying what feels like *everything.* DB dives into alternative toys to explore, the importance of checking in with a gynecologist or clinic, and how therapy can uncover deeper issues that might be impacting your sex life. Plus, DB breaks down what you need to know about anorgasmia.

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Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 10 Team:

Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB)

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