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Aug 2024
24m 14s

They Weren't The One For You and That's ...

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About this episode

How did you realize they weren't the one for you?

How did you cope with the heartbreak?

Today shares a detailed exploration of the emotional journey involved in recognizing and accepting that someone you once believed was "the one" for you, wasn't actually the right person. Often, it’s common for people to convince themselves that someone is the perfect partner, even before that person has committed or shown signs of being a suitable match. This can lead to heartbreak when the relationship fails, but  it’s okay because the person wasn't truly right for them either.

Jay also discusses the importance of understanding whether the person was truly healed from past wounds or whether they were presenting a version of themselves that wasn’t authentic. Consider the idea that sometimes people stay in relationships out of fear of being alone rather than genuine love or connection. And if a partner is unable or unwilling to engage in meaningful conversations, they might not be the right person.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to recognize when someone isn't right for you

How to focus on your partner's reality, not ideals

How to prioritize meaningful conversations

How to stay self-aware after a breakup

How to balance emotions in a relationship

Remember, it's okay if someone wasn't the one for you—what matters most is that you remain true to yourself and continue to seek the love and connection you deserve. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:54 They Weren’t For You and That’s Okay

05:04 #1: When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them

09:09 #2: They Never Showed Up When It Mattered

10:55 #3: They’re Still Healing

12:41 #4: They Kept Saying We Can’t Do This

16:37 #5: You Were Chasing the Whole Time

18:53 #6: They Made You Feel Detached

19:13 #7: You Are More Scared Of Being Alone Than Be With Them 

20:58 #8: They Couldn’t Open Up in Meaningful Conversations

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