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Jul 2024
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21: When your relationship feels impossi...

Healing with Han
About this episode

It's super common for those with relationship anxiety to think thoughts like, "As soon as my partner does xyz or changes abc about themselves, THEN I will be happy."

Here is the hard truth: It's not your partner's job to make you happy. It's yours. And relationship triggers will keep coming up in your life as long as you feel need to control your partner or your relationship. So how can you get into your body and surrender to those feelings that are building up? Join me today in talking all about surrendering to what is.

 

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