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Nov 2024
24m 59s

#97 - My Recurring Relationship Anxiety ...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

Over the years, there is a recurring ‘theme’ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship.

 

I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently now: as a chance to pour into my life more intentionally, vs. placing the relationship or Nate on a pedestal.

 

In this episode, I explore how I am setting intentions this winter to intentionally show up for myself and nurture 3 key areas:

  1. My inner life
  2. My values
  3. My personal interests

 

These are 3 key areas that Robert Johnson shares in his book (We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love) to take the projection off our partner to complete us and make us whole. Excited to share this with you so you can take the time to reflect on these key areas, too!

 

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