Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are:
- The more we resist feeling “bad”—the more we suffer. The more we accept feeling “bad”—the sooner it will come and go
- It’s much easier to look at the ways our partner is lacking than to turn inward and see our own shortcomings
- Don’t sweep things under the rug, but don’t spend excessive time thinking and thinking and thinking about them either
- Make the unspoken spoken
- Trust that your partner has positive or neutral intentions–they are not trying to hurt you
- Wedding planning doesn’t have to be stressful or magical, it can be whatever you make it.
- The messy, boring, hard moments don’t make it to someone’s social media page 99% of the time—but they’re part of being human.
- Instead of trying to “be more loving” to others—be compassionate towards the barriers in your heart. This in and of itself is an act of love and will help you soften
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