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Jul 2024
34m 54s

Is Your Help Doing More Harm Than Good? ...

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About this episode

How much help is too much?

This question hits close to home for many of us. We all want to be there for our friends and family, but there comes a point where we need to step back. 

Offering too much help can end up making them dependent on us, preventing them from learning to stand on their own. 

It's all about finding that middle ground – being supportive without taking away their chance to learn and grow independently.

Today, let's explore the idea of figuring out when our help might be excessive, and whether it's causing any negative impacts on us or the person we're assisting. We've all been in situations where we give a lot without receiving the same in return. To handle this, we need to understand what genuine support truly means. 

Always remember that there are times when you don't have to be the hero for everyone. Sometimes, it's important to take care of yourself first before reaching out to help others.


What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 
00:29 The Savior Complex
06:49 How do you know if you’re helping someone too much?
13:54 Are you helping them get better or make themselves feel better?
16:07 What you want for someone is not necessarily what they want
18:57 Are you invited to help?
21:18 Pathological altruism
26:38 What if helping is harming you?
30:00 True support

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