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Jul 2024
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313. The Resilience Myth

Feelings & Co
About this episode

Soraya Chemaly heard her entire life that being resilient is a positive trait. But lately, she’s been questioning the toll resiliency actually takes on us. 

Soraya Chemaly is the author of The Resilience Myth: New thinking on grit, strength, and growth after trauma. You can hear more about her thoughts on resilience in her episode of Terrible, Thanks For Asking

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If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be! But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we’re bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we’ll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll.

Created and hosted by Nora McInerny.

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“It’s Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that connects people and technology for better employee benefits.  Learn more at www.thehartford.com/benefits

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Share your OK thing at 612.568.4441 or by emailing a note or voice memo to IGTBO@feelingsand.co. Start your message with “I’m (name) and it’s going to be okay.” 

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The IGTBO team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu, Amanda Romani and Grace Barry.

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The transcript for this episode can be found here.

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