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Feb 2025
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219. The 5 Identity Shifts That Transfor...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

In this episode, we dive deep into why traditional "practice makes perfect" advice falls short when it comes to social skills, and explore how identity shifts create lasting change in your social confidence. Learn five powerful strategies to transform how you show up in social situations.

 

Episode Highlights

  • Why technical practice alone won't make you more socially confident
  • The "robot effect" in social interactions and how to avoid it
  • Introduction to the VALUE framework for meaningful conversations
  • Step-by-step guide to the 30-day video challenge
  • How to rewrite your internal narrative for lasting change

Key Takeaways

  • Identity shifts are more powerful than technique practice
  • Physical embodiment creates mental confidence
  • Focus on giving value rather than performing in conversations
  • Your environment shapes your social identity
  • Join: Social Skills Mastery Inner Circle Facebook Group

 

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