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May 2024
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Ask Angry: Am I Avoidant, or Just Not Re...

The Angry Therapist
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In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that your partne ... Show More
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