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Apr 2024
19m 11s

Was my child's misbehaviour due to my la...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
About this episode
Send us a text I really messed up last night and I want to share this with you so that you can learn from my mistake. When we are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it can trickle down to our kids. If we don't notice this, then all we see if a child that is "misbehaving" when in reality it is a child that is dysregulated, doesn't feel connected, doesn't fee ... Show More
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