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Apr 2024
19m 11s

Was my child's misbehaviour due to my la...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
About this episode

I  really messed up last night and I want to share this with you so that you can learn from my mistake.

When we are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it can trickle down to our kids. If we don't notice this, then all we see if a child that is "misbehaving" when in reality it is a child that is dysregulated, doesn't feel connected, doesn't feel validated or seen.

When we NOTICE this, it makes it easier for us to switch our own behaviour or thoughts with the goal of changing how it is impacting our child.

In this episode, I share the bedtime story that would might be able to relate to and I share some reflection prompts to help you work through it the next time this happens to you.

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